Before you read on, please understand that we at RTG truly love those who identify as gay. We do not hate you, and we never will. Please read on.
Those who identify as gay face many struggles. There is a high suicide rate and many difficulties they face from day to day including rejection from family, being ostracized in the church/community/workplace, and many mental health and substance abuse issues.
The causes of homosexuality are multi-faceted, and there is no “one answer” to the causation because it is a case-by-case basis. This post is not written to discuss causations, but I have researched this topic for well over a decade if not longer, and from my findings, homosexuality is not genetic and it is not something you are born with However, in scientific journal, “The New Atlantis” ( August 2016), an interesting and undoubtedly controversial article stated there was no genetic cause to homosexuality and:
- The belief that sexual orientation is an innate, biologically fixed human property – that people are “born that way” – is not supported by scientific evidence.
- The belief that gender identity is an innate, fixed human property independent of biological sex – so that a person might be a ‘man trapped in a woman’s body’ or ‘a woman trapped in a man’s body’ – is not supported by scientific evidence.
- Only a minority of children who express gender-atypical thoughts or behaviour will continue to do so into adolescence or adulthood. There is no evidence that all such children should be encouraged to become transgender, much less subjected to hormone treatments or surgery.
- Non-heterosexual and transgender people have higher rates of mental health problems (anxiety, depression, suicide), as well as behavioral and social problems (substance abuse, intimate partner violence), than the general population. Discrimination alone does not account for the entire disparity.
I encourage you, whether you are gay, straight, or unsure, to watch these videos at YouTube where people tell their stories of how they became gay, and how they left the lifestyle:
There are many more videos out there, but this is a start.
I would like to list ministries that help people struggling with same-sex attraction:
http://www.ha-fs.org/ (Homosexuals Anonymous)
I also want to list a few of the many books on this topic that can be found on Amazon.com:
What you will find is that people identifying with LGBT grew up with rejection issues, child molestation, early exposure to pornography, and other harmful things that shaped their identity. Yet, through the power of Jesus Christ, they were able to overcome it and leave the lifestyle. You won’t hear about this type of healing in the mainstream media for many reasons, however the truth is out there if you seek it.
All sinners have a chance of redemption and salvation. Change is possible, and we read about this very thing in the New Testament:
1 Corinthians 6:9-11 tells us that homosexuality, drunkenness, swindlers, and a list of other types of sin were present even then. But, they were justified by God and abandoned their sins.
“Such were some of you, but you were you were washed, you were sanctified, you were justified in the name of the Lord Jesus Christ and by the Spirit of our God.”
God changes people every day.
God tells us in both the Old and New Testaments that homosexuality is a sin Some have tried to reinterpret these passages, but by doing so they take the verse out of context and it no longer means what the author intended. Romans 1 gives us a clear picture of homosexuality:
“The wrath of God is being revealed from heaven against all the godlessness and wickedness of people, who suppress the truth by their wickedness, since what may be known about God is plain to them, because God has made it plain to them. For since the creation of the world God’s invisible qualities—his eternal power and divine nature—have been clearly seen, being understood from what has been made, so that people are without excuse.
For although they knew God, they neither glorified him as God nor gave thanks to him, but their thinking became futile and their foolish hearts were darkened. Although they claimed to be wise, they became fools and exchanged the glory of the immortal God for images made to look like a mortal human being and birds and animals and reptiles.
Therefore God gave them over in the sinful desires of their hearts to sexual impurity for the degrading of their bodies with one another. They exchanged the truth about God for a lie, and worshiped and served created things rather than the Creator—who is forever praised. Amen.
Because of this, God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.
Furthermore, just as they did not think it worthwhile to retain the knowledge of God, so God gave them over to a depraved mind, so that they do what ought not to be done. They have become filled with every kind of wickedness, evil, greed and depravity. They are full of envy, murder, strife, deceit and malice. They are gossips, slanderers, God-haters, insolent, arrogant and boastful; they invent ways of doing evil; they disobey their parents; 31 they have no understanding, no fidelity, no love, no mercy. Although they know God’s righteous decree that those who do such things deserve death, they not only continue to do these very things but also approve of those who practice them.”
In summary, Paul tells us in this first chapter of Romans that homosexuality is a judgement on mankind resulting from people rejecting God. Because of the rejection, God gave them over to their shameful lusts and unnatural sexual relations. The chapter finishes out describing the other sins committed by people who reject God.
Now, the question has yet to be answered: Can you be a Gay Christian? The short answer is “no.” You CAN be a Christian struggling with same-sex attraction. Similarly, you can be Christian struggling with alcohol abuse, anger, hatred, fornication, lust, pornography, resentment, unforgiveness…the list goes on. But, we cannot identify ourselves as Christian Alcoholics, Christian Spouse Abusers, etc.
When we accept Jesus Christ as our Lord and Savior, and repent of our sins, we are Born Again. We are no longer the same person. We are Christians, and although we will still struggle with sins, we are not sold out to those sins. We don’t live in the very sins that separate us from God. The Holy Spirit convicts us when we sin, and that is how we recognize our failure and are prompted to go back to the Cross to repent yet again.
This is the normal Christian life. We don’t live in our sin, but when we fail, we pick ourselves up, humbly repent, and try again.
In conclusion, I want to again remind you that I never hate gay people and I never will. You are experiencing a specific struggle, but the healing power and grace of Jesus Christ can intercede for your life and make you new. Please visit the above listed ministries and watch the videos of those who have left the gay identity.